It’s impossible to get through this world in solo mode. Think about it like this…. if I had to guess, I would say 99% of people do not like fear. Depending on the type of person you are, you’re [initial] onset of fear either causes us to freeze up and hide and retreat temporarily causing things to be worse. OR fear can put us into this immediate, unplanned, spontaneous action, where we question if we did things the right way fear rushed us.
I am 100 % fully aware how extremely insane, contradictory, irrational [because on how what I just said above]. I realize I’m only almost 40 (shhhh 😉), and I hopefully have another half of a lifetime left to understand more. However, in the last 20–25 years I have come to learn the hard way, unfortunately on a few occasions,BOTH of these reactions to fear is unproductive and a waste of time.
Regardless of how each of us responds to fear, (a lot have a knee-jerk reaction) is never the way we thought we would react. Fear is not a bad thing, because it’s a completely separate emotion compared to love, work, friends, hobbies, family life, etc.
Not only should we welcome & embrace fear, but we should seize it, capture it, & accept it. Learn from it. Maybe you’ve never realized that fear is a completely different emotion than the other ones (Love, Hate, Anger, Resentment, jealously, etc.). It holds NO hands, and it”can” take away your security after all. Think about this: Love is associated with friendships & relationships, work is associated with coworkers, career & money, Family is associated with the ones you love. Fear is all alone. If fear could be a cup, it would be a Red Solo Cup. The ONLY thing fear has, is power over you— IF you allow it. Fear has no partner, because who would want to be a friend of fear? All fear is, is full of loneliness, anxiety, stress, isolation, lack of motivation, unproductiveness, & depression. Since birth we were taught, told, & shown safety & security, and then one day, BOOM! fear comes along and kidnaps us… if you let it.
How many people do you know that like and actually look forward to fear? Fear gives us this that feeling of not knowing what to expect; when majority of our life we’re kept safe and have security, and with security comes knowledge and what to expect, and what to expect goes right back to feeling safe & secure. Fear steals our security, and fear scares a lot of us- so badly that we never move forward and we just allow fear to steal our security.
Nobody likes to be afraid. Do you? I sure as heck don’t.
MY MORAL RAMBLING: If we did not have fearful thoughts and/or face fearful experiences, courage would never ever exist. Fear is the SOUL reason we have courage. So please, as scary and as hard as it is at the time, be thankful for fear, because without fear, courage wouldn’t exist. Heroes, self worth, being proud of yourself, trying new things and succeeding, etc.
If you always give into fear you will never know who the real you really is- in fact nobody will. And if that’s your case, you can’t expect anybody else to know you, and you’re never going to be able to truly know anybody else, until you know Andrew stand yourself first.
Without facing & trying to overcome your fear with your God given courage (which I you sure you that you have more then enough to last a lifetime.) You’ll never know the accomplishments, recognition & successes you could’ve made & did. You would NEVER really know what could’ve been, if you just stood up and showed the world how courageous you really can be.
Courage is not our strength, fear is.
– Teresa Slater (TangoTalks)
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